Jesus modeled the importance of making the distinction between what was urgent and what was important in a conversation he had with Mary and Martha.

Both of these sisters were in the house with Jesus. Martha was busy and distracted with so many tasks. Mary was sitting and listening to Jesus. Martha complained about doing all of the work herself.

Jesus said, “My dear Martha, you’re worried and upset over all these details, there’s only one thing worth being concerned about, and Mary has discovered it, and it will not be taken from her.” (Luke 10:41-42)

Jesus was making a simple statement about values and priorities. It was an exercise in values clarification. He was reminding Martha that what’s on the stove is not more important than who’s in the house.

Perhaps we all need to be reminded at times that who’s on the phone (call, text, post, email, etc.) is not more important than who is in our presence.

This message has many applications. I am focusing on technology, but this applies to anything that prevents us from being fully present in the lives of people. It could be our job, TV, sports, hobbies, etc. Being present means setting aside distractions.

There have been many times I have been distracted by my phone when I was having a conversation with someone. I have often been with others who were distracted by technology while we were together.

In contemporary culture, it is not unusual for conversations to be interrupted by a call, text or notification. While it would seem rude to allow someone to insert themselves into the middle of a conversation between two people, and yet, it happens all of the time with our phone.

We need some boundaries. Where will you draw the line and decide the phone is off limits while you are with people? I heard someone say checking your phone is like picking your nose. There is nothing wrong with it, but nobody should have to watch you do it. Something for all of us to consider.

Would getting this right make a positive difference in your marriage? Would it make a difference in the relationship you have with your kids?

There are 936 weeks from the time a child is born until they graduate from high school. Those moments matter. Being present matters. Presence validates people. It shows them they matter to you and you value the relationship.

As you increase your presence, you will increase your influence. Presence helps bring out the best in people. It is so counter-cultural and attractive in today’s world.

Steve Greene is the lead pastor of The Point in Seymour. Read his blog at pastorgreene.wordpress.com or email him at [email protected]. Send comments to [email protected].